Lost love dating human relationships
If you’re not listening to the music, you’re not experiencing music.
Yes, I realize I’m speaking in metaphors, so let me tie this up: I don’t care if you of them is not your relationship – it is simply a thought in your head, completely irrelevant to the on-going music of your relationship.
So what’s the root cause of this destructive force of fixation?
How can you completely banish it from your love life, so love has a chance to flourish and grow? Simple, however, does not always translate to easy.
It’s usually based on an obsession, or idealization, more than a genuine appreciation and acceptance of who the other person is. Well, when you love someone, it is pretty effortless.
There is a tremendous difference between real, true love and unhealthy obsession or fixation… It is true and pure – you don’t need them to be any certain way.
Most of the love stories we see in pop culture are rooted in infatuation…not real love.
Some degree of infatuation is fine, but a relationship entirely rooted in infatuation is usually doomed.
I blame music and Hollywood for propagating this mindset, but for whatever reason, people today have the idea that relationships are supposed to be hard.
Instead, it is more like you are gasping for air, desperately hoping they’ll give you whatever it is you think you need from them.
Granted, even good relationships have a little bit of fixation mixed in with them (I must emphasize a little bit), but it is only during very occasional occurrences like arguments or when one or both partners are stressed.
There is this idea that we have one soul mate and that real love stories are supposed to be filled with obstacles and drama.
While this makes for good entertainment, it isn’t real life.Our society tries to make relationships into a thing – a thing that can be worked on, fixed or broken. You can say you have the song or own it, but saying you have a song on your i Pod has nothing to do with your experience of the song as it’s playing.